Should I Break Up? How Tarot Can Help You Think It Through

If you are afraid of your partner, or if they control your money, your friends or where you go, this isn't a question for tarot. Please contact a local domestic violence helpline or someone you trust. No card should be weighed against your safety.

The rest of this page is for the more ordinary, slower question of a relationship that has stopped feeling right.

Try "What is good here that I would truly miss?", "What have I stopped asking for?" and "What would have to change for me to want to stay, and has it been said aloud?" That last one matters. Many relationships end over a request that was never actually made.

A three-card spread of what to keep, what to release and what you need works well here. Our guide to tarot for love covers how to read a relationship without turning it into a verdict.

Two of Swords is the blindfolded stalemate: you have stopped looking because looking would mean choosing. The Lovers is about values more than romance, so ask if you still want the same life. Eight of Cups is a tired, quiet leaving.

Four of Wands is real stability, which is worth weighing before you walk away from it. The Devil asks what is keeping you here: love, or habit and fear. Temperance suggests repair is possible if both of you are willing to work at it.

Say one honest sentence to your partner that you have been holding back, and watch what happens. That usually tells you more than a second reading could. If you want to look at both of you, the love compatibility reading sets your two sides and the bond next to each other.

You don't have to decide tonight. A decision made on a calm Tuesday tends to hold up better than one made after a fight.